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Monday, July 31, 2006

Clear as a bell

I am sort of still spinning from my totally eventful weekend. I think the realization of my impending divorce hit me like a ton of bricks last week. A big thanks to SS and Becka for reminding me that this week would be SIX months of separation for me. Six long months and no real strides made either way...we were in a holding pattern. I was suffering, my kids were suffering and their was no real end in sight Until this weekend...

Almost-Ex picked up the kids Saturday afternoon as usual, he was keeping them for the night. I didn't have any real plans for the weekend but had been talking with WAY TOO CUTE firefighter for about a week and he has been "trying" to talk to me longer...I always resisted, hoping things would work out with my marriage. I actually even thought about setting him up with SS...until her and hot wake board boy hooked up again. He is just too nice of a guy and an excellent conversationalist. We can spend hours talking about anything and everything or we can just sit in total silence and enjoy the tune on the radio.

...anyway, got sidetracked a little. :) After spending the day on the lake with FF, and having a wonderful time...I awaited the call from kids saying they were on their way home. Of course, Almost-Ex got on the phone and asked 20 questions. When I told him I was with "a few people," he got the idea and of course was not happy. I mean, he could date and see whomever he chooses, but it's a different story with me, right? What followed after his initital anger is the best part of the story (aside from the sweet little goodbye kiss from FF) we actually TALKED! No yelling, arguing or blaming...we just opened up and let it all go. It was such a moment of clarity for me...he was actually "relieved" that I had been honest with him about my boating date. I think it alleviated some of the guilt he has been holding for doing whatever he has been up to.

Mainly I think we realized that we are great parents...we are NOT a great couple and both of us only wants the best for the other one but the kids are first and foremost our priority. They will be happy if we are happy...even if it's not with each other.

So, today is the first day of my new life (old me is back, I'm happy to report)...and I am ready to take on the world!

10 Comments:

  • At 1:14 PM, Blogger Becka said…

    so glad u r now 'claritin clear'! LMAO
    i'm happy for you. you know i am. gotta be happy for those trophy friends! ROFLMFAOOOOOOO oh..i'm just crackin myself up today!

    signed,
    still in a fog.

     
  • At 1:56 PM, Blogger Strawberrie-Shortcake said…

    I think this is the best thing that has ever been posted to this blog...

    **tear**

     
  • At 11:29 AM, Blogger Kirsti said…

    So happy for you!
    And so jealous for that Firefighter. He has any friends by any chance..? Goodlooking friends who like to treat?

     
  • At 11:59 AM, Blogger Rainbow-Bright said…

    Thanks Kristi! As a matter of fact...he has several FF friends and I'm sure they would treat a Norwegian beauty like you!

     
  • At 1:26 PM, Blogger Kirsti said…

    Haha just as I break the engagement you see the picture of the rings :p You can buy them if you want. Coming to USA next summer in fact ;) I was gonna bring rum from the duty free but if you find me 3 firemen that will treat..?

     
  • At 4:38 PM, Blogger Rainbow-Bright said…

    Sorry, I've been a little slow since my return to blogdome.

    You need 3? Is there something about firemen, you aren't telling me? ;)

     
  • At 5:37 PM, Blogger Kirsti said…

    Come on! I am just out of a serious relationship.. THERE WAS CO-HABITANCE!

    I am entitled to 3 firemen!!

    By the way I am actually going on a roadtrip to the USA next summer. Just to keep you informed :p

     
  • At 5:38 PM, Blogger Kirsti said…

    oh yeah. I just told you that in my last comment.

    Did I mention I am going to USA next summer? Did I? Did you know? Can you tell I am looking foreward to it? Roadtrip yey!

     
  • At 8:53 AM, Blogger Rainbow-Bright said…

    Awesome! When and where, must have all details to arrange meeting w/fireman at swanky hotel.

    Girl...I'll HOOK YOU UP! :)

     
  • At 11:20 AM, Blogger Kirsti said…

    Route 66! But for a party with you guys and hot firemen I WILL MAKE DETOURS.

    And. We are not so much far into the planning yet. We are at the... "uh. We need money" stage. But we will have our roadtrip!

     

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